I filed for Divorce

I caught my husband cheating with a woman he was riding to work with. On Monday he denied they were more than carpoolers. On Tuesday morning he admitted that he was seeing her after work and that our daughter had already met her. On Tuesday afternoon he admitted that she was indeed his “girlfriend”. Tuesday evening I talked to her on the phone and she admitted that they were having sex (it was a lot uglier than that, of course, but I’m not going into details right now). Early Wednesday morning (3 am) after he came home from work (2 hours late) he told me “I’m about to take a shower. Do you want to smell her on me?” Later that morning (around 10 am) he told me that he loves her and that he’s planning to marry her (she’s married and is far from a divorce). About 11:30am he took a bag of things and left. She called me to tell me he had come to live with her.

At 3pm that day, I met with an attorney and filled out affidavits.

On Friday, I called my husband to ask “Are you sure you want to go through with this divorce?” He said very strongly “Yes.” I said “Fine”, hung up the phone and walked the retainer down to my attorney. The papers were filed before lunch.

There are a lot more difficult details and, quite frankly, I’m going insane. But I’m not going to write about that on this blog. I’m setting up a private blog to detail what happened and what is happening now. This is something that I only want to share with my most trusted friends.

Hopefully I’ll get the urge to blog normally again. I’m not very interested in anything right now. I hope everyone understands.

For my friends:
I’ll post privately the address of the new blog. Don’t feel obligated to read and/or comment. I’m pretty sure no one can say anything to make me feel better right now. If you have any advice on how I can get this damned emotional topsy-turvy under control, how I can get to sleep or how I can stop myself from cleaning all the damned time.

In the time it’s taken me to write this post, I’ve gone from acceptance to anger to sorrow. You see? I fucking hate this shit.

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