Baby’s mama drama

I have never had to deal with side chicks so much in my life as I have in the last year. First it was TheMan and his Pokémon then MyDude and his baby’s mom and now…. another baby’s mom.

These last 2 refuse to let their children’s fathers see their child unless the father is in a romantic relationship with them. If not in a relationship with them then GOD FORBID he be in a new (definitely better) relationship.

I don’t understand that mindset. My mother did that with us – though not with our father. She was more along the lines of no family members were allowed to see us when she was in a mood. She didn’t speak to my aunt for 2 years because my aunt took us after our mother attempted suicide in front of us. Maybe if we’d have had access to more normal family… But that’s not how that worked out.

We were hurt by my mother’s selfishness. None of us are ok. Granted, I never needed to be around my father, but what about a grandmother? Imagine if a father actually wants to see his child and said child’s mother decided “Nope. If I can’t have you then you can’t see your kid.” Welp, imagine no further.

I’m exhausted from all of this nonsense. I’m exhausted from being the “bigger person”. I’m exhausted from my life being interrupted to deal with women who aren’t happy unless they have all the toys. When can I let the bitch out?

Of course, the babies’ mamas use me against the fathers, so I’m to shut my face if I want him to see his child. I’m to accept continuously bloody shins or I just don’t care. Can’t I see how much damage I’m doing?

There’s rarely a court order in this scenario and there’s not one now. “Go assert your rights “, I say “go to court.” That’s absurd, though. So much easier for me to shut up and pretend I’m not in any way involved. It hurts me,.of course, but ultimately it’s the kids who are hurt. It’s not just a quaint expression. I’m proof.

I had this elsewhere, but thought I could flesh it out more on here. Or at least make sense about it in my head. The only thing that makes sense at the end of this is why I can’t stand this shit.

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Look What I Missed

I’ve sucked lately. No, not TheMan. I’ve just had some stuff that I was dealing with and have lost my way. Well, not really lost. I’ve just not really felt the desire to post or comment. Because…

First, I need to let those who don’t read me (usually) know that I get all over the blogosphere. I do the political thing, I do the SEO thing (I read the stupid drama there, because Mwahahaha!!), the personal thing and the EC thing. It’s all good fare for moi.

Anyway, I got back into action and HOLY SHITBALLS™1! There’s a lot of flippin’ drama going on. Now, if you know me, you know I love the drama. Usually I just read it and laugh my not-so-petite ass off. I will readily admit that I have no life and so the drama amuses me. Now, if I think that a blogfriend is being effected by said drama, I will happily jump my ass into it- even if it doesn’t involve me. Why? Did you miss the part about me not having a life?

Dramatic Internet Happening #1

Anyway, for some reason2 I decided to visit some old haunts today. These old haunts are places that a certain off-the-grid friend and I used to go to point and laugh. I guess I just missed to good ol’ days. So, there I was reading snide innuendos and wondering what the fuck people are talking about. Of course, I have to do some investigating. Dur3. Seems I’ve been missing a lot of good shit.

Some dude (some of you know who) met some chick via the blogodrama. Dude was married to another woman. Dude met chick at a blog meetup. Dude and chick fell “madly” in love. Dude left wife to go live with chick in another state. Dude and chick broadcast their love affair on their blogs4 and all their blog buds are all happy for them. Anyway, Dude and chick are lovey-dovey in their new home they just bought in this other state. On the 10th Dude and chick decide to go back to Dude’s home state to take care of business. On the 11th Dude announces on his blog that he and his wife are back together and he’s taking a break. Chick makes no such announcement on her blog. There is no further explanation.

Shit fire, their blog friends are going nuts! One side is all “I’m on your side as long as your happy”…blah blah blah. The other side is “You dick! How could you do that to us?” And me? I’m like “That’s some soap opera shit right there.” At any rate, some of the friends apparently think they deserve an explanation. The other friends think this guy should do whatever he wants. Not a whole lot of them think about what Mrs. Dude is going through, of course. I’m thinking she should just kick his ass out and let the vultures have him. But then, I’m one of those kinds of people that doesn’t broadcast every little detail of my life for the entire Intertubes to see. That’s just me though. What do I know?

I don’t have an opinion one way or the other about this affair. I don’t know what’s going on in Dude’s marriage. I think, though, that he was a stupid motherfucker for making the entire thing public. I think his wife deserved better than to have to read how he and Chick were fucking and doing whatever. I think that if he was going to do this, then some fucking TACT would have been in order. But… that’s just me. Who am I?

During those travels, I also reinforced my belief to stay pseudonymous. Seems that a somewhat popular blogger (if you don’t have at least 150 comments or a pr of 7 then you’re only “somewhat” popular, ok?) likes to out people he doesn’t agree with. Seems this dude will befriend people and then POOF! just like that he announces to the world who they are. That’s fucked up shit right there. And anyone that does that should be mocked.5

Just my opinion, of course.6

Dramatic Internet Happening #2

Seems there was some “censorship” in the EC forums. Apparently some dude (Scratchin’ Sniff?) didn’t like the EC powerdroppers7 so he made a post. Powerdroppers told him something he didn’t like. So then the Admins made a forum just for people to use for bitching (or whatever). You can read the details here. I think. Anyway

Seems that a moderator went through and deleted and/or modified existing posts. I said in a comment over there that I don’t believe that’s it’s complete censorship, because real censorship is not being able to voice your opinion anywhere and I truly believe that. However, when the moderator (Lee Doyle, apparently) modified comments, I decided that he’s as fucked up as a certain raving lunatic that I know who also modifies comments (on his blog, though, not in forums). I also think it’s fucked up that apparently Graham agrees with what he did.

Look, I believe that a private forum (and EC forums is private) should have a ToS8 and that everyone participating in that forum should abide by the ToS. However, the forums should have an OBVIOUS ToS that the members to follow. When there are rules established, in writing or because of previous understanding, then the mods are expected to enforce them. The ToS NEEDS to be understood from the get. When rules are established after the fact, then shit will probably fucking hit the fan.

In this case, the rules changed mid-stream and the shit hit the fan, which resulted in some very popular members being “suspended”. That’s just wrong on so many levels. It’s wrong because the members were following the already established rules, bending over backwards to follow the new rules, and having to shut the fuck up while the PowerMad Mod went nuts. Of course, that mod is now on a “break’ but still…

Of course, I had to weigh in. Hello! I’m one of those ranting “YOU GO” girls (happily named by a certain Sam dude). I don’t so mind rules. I’ll follow them happily. I fucking hate when people edit and/or delete opinions that don’t sit well with them. That’s cowardly pissant shit.

Just my opinion, of course.

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  1. Courtesy of Schad, of course []
  2. I’m stupid. []
  3. See: no life []
  4. Can you imagine what his wife, who had access to his blog, must have been thinking? []
  5. I also learned who Sassy Sadie and Vicious Vikki are. []
  6. URLs available to trusted peeps upon request []
  7. Who really cares how people drop cards? I certainly don’t. []
  8. Terms of Service for those who are brain dead. []
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