In the last few weeks I have managed to personally offend people in the following ways:
1.) Mentioning that I’m going to vote for Barack Obama, even though I find his policies just left of Bush’s.
2.) Saying that documents required to procure identification for voting should be free.
4.) I’m pretty sure the person who called me a cunt was pissed that I joked I don’t like squirrels (I do like squirrels, but I have a running gag. I’d mention the friends who posted about Squirrel Appreciation Day yesterday, but I don’t want to offend anyone by putting their name in a post).
5.) I said something I don’t remember which caused someone to freak out on me and call me an Obot. Other people remember that incident. No, I didn’t say anything to that person or say anything that elicited that kind of response from that person. Perhaps someone who saw it can remind me what caused her to lose her ever-loving mind.
6.) Laughing about being accused of being a sock puppet. That was actually funny, because the offended person didn’t even know what a sock puppet was so I linked her to urban dictionary. This, obviously, was a personal attack on her and I was clearly calling her a sock puppet.
I would dig these links up and/or directly quote myself, but I’m not in the mood right now. I’m irritated and not overly concerned about showing that these are actual incidents where I wasn’t ranting about someone in particular. I wasn’t pointing out anything except something like voting or websites that can’t be accessed by my android phone or, god forbid, joking about squirrels.
I can be very offensive. I recognize that. I can also get angry and rant, rant, rant. These situations are different. I’ve been commenting without the passion and fire because I have a lot going on in my real life and I’m just not feeling it. Today’s incident, regarding my highly offensive post remarking on CBS’s inability to code their site for Android, was something I totally wasn’t expecting3. Here’s someone who regularly “reminds” Google+ users that it’s rude not to acknowledge someone who has shared something with you. I did that and the response I got was a snide “I’m sorry to have bothered you with that”. When I explained my post he wrote “You could’ve fooled me”. Really? I mention to someone else that I think birth certificates should be free. The response I got from some stranger was “I don’t understand your rant. My birth certificate was free”. Upon clarification, his response to me was more shin-kicking. I don’t know where that shit came from4
The birth certificate thing went like this:
ME: And voting should be free. Meaning that it should cost $0. IDs, birth certificates etc all cost money. So, maybe it should be about allowing us to access these necessary articles of identication without the cost so that it costs $0 to cast a vote.
HIM: Um, my birth certificate didn’t cost me a dime… and neither did my Social Security card – so I’m a bit confused at your rant +Jenny Jinx
I’m sick of having to clarify innocent observations. I’m sitting here rewriting this shit over and over trying to word it in a way that somebody won’t find to be a personal attack on them. That shit is tiring. I’m not doing it anymore. Fuck it. There are plenty of people who read the shit I write who don’t find offense in my observations. I’d much rather “socialize” with them than the people who immediately go on the attack over stupid shit.
Here’s what my problem is:
There have been people in my social networking streams that have been spending a lot of time complaining about what they see in their streams. So, I’ve changed my habits on both Twitter and Google+. I’ve changed the way I reshare things on G+ and have curbed my habit of tweeting whatever the fuck is on my mind on Twitter. I’ve tried to be considerate of what others are experiencing on their own streams. That ends today.
I’ve been on Twitter for almost 5 years and G+ since 10 days after it went live Beta (heh). I’ve never had to defend myself against people whining that I’ve done something wrong so much as I have recently. That’s not a problem with how I do things, that’s a problem with their perception. There are times when I am clearly letting off steam or ranting about something/someone. There are also times when I will say something like “I hate you for showing me that” to someone and that someone will know I don’t really hate him– I’m joking. I appreciate a good discussion and I will apologize if I’ve really said something that has offended someone I respect5. I exhibited my ability to have rational debates and other types of discussion with just about any type of online personality6. I’m done behaving in a way that is out of character for me– whether on or offline.
A stranger is still someone I don’t know. And I don’t know someone just because we’ve had a few amicable words on a social networking site. I know someone or am in the process of knowing someone, if we mutually take the time to actually understand each other beyond online political ranting and sharing shit on another site. Fuck it. If someone is going to be my friend, they should realize that 1.) I’m a real person, 2.) I’m crazy and 3.) I’m opinionated. They should also realize that I’m not going to be intentionally hurtful to someone without a real reason. I’m not going to go the fuck off on someone because the link they shared isn’t working properly. If that’s what you think of me then see ya. I haven’t got the time for that or you. Period. Honestly, my life is easier and happier without people who are going to think of me like that.
- This person was highly offended because I gave him credit for sharing the link. He accused me of calling him out. [↩]
- No, worries, the clarification that I wasn’t complaining about the person who posted the link, but the site itself, was also offensive [↩]
- I’ve since edited that post to remove his name and to include “some mysterious person” as to not “call out” [↩]
- That comes from internet culture, I know. I know people are stupid and that anything can be misunderstood in writing. That’s not the point. That’s just an example of one more thing. [↩]
- Key word there. If I’ve offended someone I don’t like or respect, I’ve probably done it on purpose and have no intention of apologizing. [↩]
- I don’t always equate an online persona with an offline persona [↩]